There are times in everyone’s life when we suffer loss. Loss of any sort can have a significant impact on the quality of life, our feelings of self-worth. It can be loss of a loved one, loss of a relationship, home, job, self-esteem or simply losing our way. Loss and change are often devastating and can turn our world upside down. At a time when everything seems ‘all at sea’ counselling can provide a safe haven in which to express our feelings and mourn our losses until we feel strong again.
As life is constantly changing it is not unusual to find our well-formed strategies which have previously worked so well no longer have the same positive effect. This can throw us ‘off course’ and have a major unsettling impact on our lives and relationships. Counselling can help us to see things from a different perspective and helps to discover new strategies for overcoming or living with our difficulties going forward. Counselling facilitates the process of gaining greater self-awareness and understanding of others so as to improve our relationships and live a more fulfilling life. Talking things through can help your mind feel less cluttered, and makes decision-making more straightforward.
It can be a relief to talk to a professional who is separate from the rest of your life, and to put aside a time each week in which you can focus on yourself and your own needs. You can then gain some insights into where you are in your life, who you are or who you want to be, and which direction to go in. I offer this safe, confidential space for you to tell your story, not to be judged, but to be listened to empathetically.
It’s easy to let looking after yourself drop down your list of priorities, but it’s really important – it helps you manage yourself and your life better, and achieve that sometimes elusive feeling of balance and control. It also puts you back in touch with yourself and helps you make healthier connections with others.
Connections are central to what I do. Every connection we make with people is special and unique, and evolves continuously. So if we can learn to accept change and transition, face our challenges with openness and honesty, and accept support from others, we can embrace life instead of shying away from it in fear and denial.
Sometimes one of the most challenging steps is to seek help in the first place and by reading this you have taken a difficult and courageous step, and possibly the most important one.
Ultimately, I believe we’re all unique, so each individual responds differently to the therapeutic environment. In other words, there’s no right or wrong way – it’s about helping you find your way.